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Back to School

So it is the beginning of August which would mean getting school supplies, meeting teachers, and getting the kids back into the swing of waking up and going to bed earlier.

This year is a tad bit different

School supplies are still including a lot of the usual but a bit more being that this year will be at home (all distractions included) and the teacher will be wanting a glass of wine by noon.

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I am seeing the their are growing options for school this year, in my state (if you go through public school) you can have the kids in school 2 days out of the week or going the virtual route. As you probably guessed from above, decided that going virtual was the right choice for us.

If any other parents are in the same boat and are thinking with dripping sarcasm “Well this is going to be swell!” I hear you and trying to look at this with silver lining like I get to spend more time with my babies and enrich their lives in way that I wouldn’t have been able to otherwise.

The hard part now is all of the little extras that I didn’t really have to think about before. Like headphones so that they can hear their teachers and not each other, an actually space in my house that has limited distractions, note pads and pencils, and a slew of websites showing me why the hell this new math is a thing and why haven’t we all just accepted that calculators take a fraction of the time (Don’t get me wrong I know WHY we need to know how to do math, but it feels like the way it is being taught now is not only harder but takes twice the time of when I learned it in school.)

As I become a teaching assistant for a 1st, 3rd, and 6th grader full time while also trying to juggle a toddler and infant I can see my blog becoming a “How Not to Lose Your Mind” type of deal.

We all got this and will continue to grow and thrive with our ever changing world.

Mom to Mom

M2M: How to navigate having a pre-teen come out?

My 13 year old has recently told me that she does not like boys, and that when she thinks about being married it’s to another girl. At first I thought it was a stage but I don’t want her to think I’m being closed minded. How do I navigate having a possibly gay child?

First things first: Congratulations!

You are a very lucky mom to have your child feel comfortable enough to talk to you about this as she is feeling it, there are so many kids that are uncomfortable talking about needing anything (much less questioning who they ideally would like to spend the rest of their lives with.)

LEARN, LISTEN, LOVE.

Learn: I can not stress this enough because not only is she a teenager and going through changes, but she is very well will be going them differently than you did (due to asking the question I assume youre straight). Join a parents group on facebook, read up some, network with parents on what they had done and their outcomes good or bad, if you have any friends who may also be apart of the LBGQT+ community ask them what their parents did or could have done.

Listen: You’re even more of an example now so as much as she may want to talk, listen. Listen to what she tells you even if it seems trivial so that way she knows that she always had her mom in her corner and always will. Even though there may be a screaming match or two in her teen years (She’s gay not immune to hormones) she will eventually grow into a woman who should be with someone who loves and listens to her as much as her mom.

Love:This feels like a given but just in case LOVE HER TO BITS. I know at 13 they are closer to wanting their independence than anything. Being a kid is hard enough, being a kid that may feel different then everyone else is down right scary.

You’ve got this Mama.

Cheers.